The perfect guy doesn’t exist. So you should just get that thought out of your head right now. You can’t keep on going through life, thinking that you’re eventually going to meet the guy who is always going to do and say the right thing. Mr. Perfect is only real in the minds and hearts of hopeless romantics.
But in terms of the real world, he is nowhere to be found. You shouldn’t delude yourself into believing that you’re eventually going to fall in love with someone who is going to make your life perfect. Perfection just isn’t going to be in the cards for you – and you have to accept that as early as now.
It’s perfectly understandable to have expectations and standards when it comes to dating and meeting guys. Of course, you have to know what you want out of love if you’re ever going to find happiness in your romantic life. But that doesn’t mean that you should be totally unreasonable with your standards.
You have to be willing to compromise. You have to allow yourself to be a little lenient. We are all human beings, and we are all flawed. You will never be able to find love if you think that there is no room for mistakes in dating.
That’s the wrong way to go about your pursuit of love. You have to acknowledge that part of being in love with a human being is able to tolerate that person’s flaws, shortcomings, mistakes, and imperfections.
You’re not going to get things to go your way all the time. And if you’re not mature enough to accept that fact at this point, then you’re not mature enough to fall in love yet.
But having said those things, it’s still important to note that you need to maintain your standards when it comes to dating. You still need to have your expectations. You still need to make sure that you are being treated the way that you deserve to be treated.
You can’t just “settle” for a love that makes you unhappy. You can’t settle with someone who doesn’t love you how you deserve to be loved. Given that, you must stay away from a certain type of guy. These types of men are just never going to be able to make you happy in a relationship. And you need to cut things off with them before they even begin.
1. The guy who thinks that all women are objects of pleasure.
He’s not going to fall in love with you. He’s just going to fall in love with whatever you can offer him. He sees you as an object of pleasure. This guy is never going to love you like a human being. He will love you the same way he would love a fancy car or an expensive watch.
2. The guy who only ever really just thinks about himself.
This is the guy who is just super selfish. It will feel like there isn’t room for the two of you in the relationship because he is only ever really concerned with his own needs and wants.
3. The guy who is materialistic and shallow.
He needs to be able to exhibit himself as a guy who is capable of depth. Otherwise, you’re never going to find meaning and fulfillment with him.
4. The guy who feels the need to party every single weekend.
While it’s good to have a guy who still wants to have fun now and then, it’s bad if he just can’t seem to settle down with you.
5. The guy who thinks that he gets to control your life.
This is the kind of guy who thinks that you give up your sense of individuality and freedom when you consent to be in a relationship with him.
6. The guy who doesn’t let you have other guy friends.
It shows that he is insecure, and he doesn’t respect or trust you. This kind of guy doesn’t trust you enough to have casual relationships with other men.
7. The guy who needs to put others down in order to feel better about himself.
This is the kind of guy who will be fond of making fun of you and making you feel bad. He has a crab mentality. He is so insecure about his own life that we will need to tear others down in order to feel better about himself.
8. The guy who refuses to commit.
This is the guy you just aren’t going to have a future with. Why? He doesn’t want to commit to you. He doesn’t want to tie himself down to anyone.
9. The guy who runs away from having serious conversations with you.
This is the type of guy who is too immature actually to be in a real relationship with. He isn’t going to have the confidence and maturity to tackle important issues surrounding your relationships. He would rather sweep problems under the rug than confront them.